This was an email from a young man with a question for us here: "I've only met one Witness in my life, so I have no source of advice other than online to ask for guidance. I met that Witness a little over a year and a half ago online. A month later, we became a couple. She didn't tell me she was a Witness until about half a year into the relationship. I had concerns before, mainly because her tone almost sounded like she was selling the faith to me. Still, I was open to the idea of... at least tolerating it. Supporting her in her quest to give her life in service and succeeding where her biological sisters had failed. Two months ago she started having periodic... I dislike the word episode because of the connotation but that's kind of what they were. She wanted to be baptized before she was 20 (we're 17 and 18 now), and she would become depressive, asking that I break up with her because I was in the way of her goals. I promised to improve myself, learning Spanish so I may better communicate with her parents and taking a more active role in becoming a Witness myself. The next day, all was just as it had been before. These episodes continued every so often, cycles varying between a day and a few weeks. I would try to assure her of my commitment. It became increasingly difficult, and yesterday we broke up because I realized how vehemently opposed my parents were to what my mother called "cults". I had never told her that my girlfriend was a Witness specifically, but I suspect she was reading my browser history. We still love each other, and have difficulty determining what is or isnt appropriate now that she and I are no longer a couple. We feel that it's impossible for us to continue further solely because one of us would have to give up essentially his/her entire life, ambitions, family, everything to be with the other. That's not healthy. So we broke up. We still have feelings for each other, and we mention when we need to purposefully hold ourselves back from being affectionate when we text. I guess after my long story here, all I'm looking for is outside advice on how to continue. I'm moving into my college on Saturday, and I know college is generally discouraged as it takes away from time that could be used on Jehovah. Before we broke up yesterday it had been my plan to attend a meeting Tuesday night (transportation makes Sunday meetings too difficult). Is there any way I can save us? Right now we're in a sort of limbo where we're more than friends but not a couple. How can I avoid my family's ire, and stay out of the way of her goals? Is it possible for us to be together at all given the circumstances, short of me joining the faith? Is it's impossible, how can we alleviate the pain of having someone we love be just out of reach? I feel like I wouldn't be able to live a happy life without her being in it, and I'm hopeful she may continue to be my friend at least, but I worry about tension. Thank you for reading. I guess I want this to be posted as an anonymous thread of something, seeing as I'll likely have no use for my account afterwards anyways. -Minou"